Breaches of trust are betrayals of loyalty not simply making a mistake. Making a mistake is different from breaking trust. Breaking trust is never appropriate. Breaking trust is a form of betrayal.
Trust is simply making oneself reliant on another person or thing within a joint decision to bring something to completion or to set forth a common goal. Trust requires two working together towards that common goal. Collaborative trust is what trust is, at least as far as the core conception of trust goes. When you are trusting someone, you are trusting that they are doing what they say they are going to do within the same activity.
The alternative approach is to say that what makes us feel we carry an attitude of trust is that it disposes one to trusting a trusted behavior. The distinctive feature of a trusting behavior has something to do with reliance. However this has been challenged by several authors.
In trusting, we grant discretion, whether to act, or to judge. Granting such discretion is not all there is to trust; indeed it may not even be necessary. But it is central. So while the acts of trust may be described as acts of granting discretion, they must also be acts that put one into a state of reliance.
~Domenicucci and Holton
Trust can not be manifested in behavior that requires no corresponding behavior from the trusted person.
Betrayal is working behind the scenes to undermine or deceive a friend/colleague or family member.
When you are betrayed by someone, it is highly likely that you will not easily trust them again. Trust is fragile and can be lost instantly or there is a lagging effect whereby a long-earned trust may be eroded and then suddenly lost.
When a person commits a betrayal, there is something they have committed to, which they have failed to honor. Within this there is also a person or people to whom they have made this commitment which they have also failed to honor.
You may not know if you have been betrayed before. It may have felt like someone disappointed you so much that in your mind you feel it was betrayal
Here is an example of what is not betrayal and what betrayal is. A journal editor has an agreement with a potential author that they should submit a paper to by a certain date. They fail to do so, but to say that this brings a feeling of betrayal would be inappropriate. The emotional responses that would be appropriate for this instance might be resentment, disappointment, annoyance; but a feeling of betrayal is something quite different. Betrayal would be when that journal editor finds out that their author, instead of simply failing to come up with the promised paper, writes it but sends it to a rival journal. The author was not loyal to the editor. Loyalty involves a sort of exclusive commitment, and when someone’s trust in this sort of commitment is disappointed then they may feel betrayed.
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